Ultimatums are not enough to stop domestic violence

Relationships are rarely conflict-free. In fact, disagreements and even the occasional shouting match are quite normal. But when disputes escalate to physical or serious emotional abuse, then there is a problem that must be addressed. Unfortunately, far too often an abused party may feel compelled to remain in a relationship in spite of the very real potential dangers.

In fact, sometimes it is the one who is being abused who feel sympathy for her or his abuser. He or she may even attempt to help, or “save” the abuser  and try to salvage the relationship. According to information found on the National Domestic Violence Hotline’s website, an abuse victim may attempt to employ different strategies, such as issuing ultimatums, trying to get the abuser to undergo therapy or suggesting couples counseling.

But sadly, if you are trying to alter your partner’s behavior, nothing will do any good unless he or she has a sincere desire to change. This can be understandably hard to accept. After all, this is someone you love who has every reason to love you back without causing you harm.

But if your partner refuses to change and continues to lash at out you in a violent manner, it is vital that you find a way to extricate yourself from the situation as soon as you can. There are a variety of strategies you can employ to protect yourself, such as having a safety plan or getting a protective order from the authorities.

But it is much more difficult to change your circumstances all by yourself. The help and support of your friends and family can be extremely important. So too can the services of an experienced family law attorney. The attorney can help you get and renew a protective order. The attorney can also act as your representative for any of your other pertinent legal needs.