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Tips for dealing with child custody and a new school year

Now that the school year is here, it is time for parents to evaluate the way that they have things set up for their child's education. One thing that must be established is how both parents are going to remain involved in the child's educational life. Children tend to do better when they know that both parents are supporting them.

It is usually a good idea to touch base with the new teachers and the administration at the school to ensure that they know which parent needs to be contacted about school matters. While only one parent might get phone calls about certain matters, you might ask that both parents are included in emails.

Suspect your ex is hiding assets? Here's where to look.

Even if you knew that your marriage was heading toward divorce for quite some time, the process can still be incredibly emotional. However, divorce is also a legal process that emotions should not rule. Not everyone takes this to heart, though. Hiding assets and money is often an emotional response to property division, and it might be more common than you think.

The point of hiding assets is to paint a picture of less overall wealth than a person actually has. Less wealth generally means that your soon-to-be ex-spouse may not have to pay as much child support or spousal support. You could also miss out on receiving your fair share of the marital assets, and your significant other will get away with more.

Your role as a grandparent during your child's divorce

If you've got an adult child who's going through a divorce, you're likely experiencing your fair share of emotions about it. If you have grandchildren, you're probably concerned for their well-being. It can be difficult to know what your role should be during this time.

You may be needed more than ever to help care for your grandchildren during the day or after school. On the other hand, you may see less of them -- particularly if they've moved away from the area with one of their parents. Either way, it's essential to focus on their needs during whatever time you have with them.

The physical effects of a divorce on older individuals

The end of a marriage is a difficult time for both parties, particularly when it comes to finances. It's inevitable that a divorce will have financial effects on a person's life and bring other major changes, but it is important not to overlook the physical effects that this process can have. For some, divorce can have a negative effect on health and wellness.

If you are facing the prospect of divorce, you are probably thinking about the various ways that your life will change. You may have to move and share parenting time with your spouse, and you may have to navigate other changes that may not be pleasant. It's a time of transition and stress, and this could eventually have an impact on your health. You will find it beneficial to figure out ways you can take care of yourself during this difficult time.

Don't let anger consume you during a divorce

Divorce doesn't bring out the best in many people. When you are going through this process, you have to remember that how you express your emotions can either help or harm your case. Think carefully about what you do when your anger starts to flare.

One thing that you don't want to happen is to allow your anger to consume you. It is perfectly natural to feel anger and even hatred during a divorce, but you can't make that the focal point of your life. Instead, look at your divorce as a positive fresh start.

The way you ask for a divorce will impact you in the future

There's nothing easy about asking your spouse for a divorce, as both you and your spouse will have a lot to say about your current situation and what the future will bring. There will be a lot of emotions on both sides, so it's important to prepare for this discussion.

The way you ask for a divorce will impact you in the future, so it's critical to take steps to minimize tension and put yourself in a position for success. Here's what you need to do:

  • Prepare: Know what you want to say, how you want to say it and how you'll react to responses your spouse could have. You can't prepare for everything, but you should at least try. This will give you more confidence.
  • Don't change your mind: As you discuss your feelings, you may begin to feel bad about what you're doing. Your spouse may even ask you to reconsider. If you're sure that divorce is the answer, don't change your mind now.
  • Don't discuss the details of your divorce: The divorce process is full of details, such as those associated with child custody, child support, alimony and property and debt division. You can negotiate these details in the future. Don't get into it initially, as it's likely to cause an argument.

Tips for discussing prenuptial agreements with your future spouse

Discussing a prenuptial agreement isn't something that many people think about when they become engaged. They might think that this is only appropriate for those who have significant financial worth. Unfortunately, that mode of thinking can mean that you don't have the protections that you need once you say, "I do."

One of the most important things for you to remember is that you need to have this discussion early in the relationship. Your future spouse must have time to consider the terms of the agreement. They also need to have time to talk to their own attorney about the arrangement.

Changing your parenting plan as your child grows up

If you and your spouse divorce when your child is very young, the parenting plan you agree on will almost certainly need to be modified as they get older. Precisely when those changes need to be made will depend on your child's needs, and to some degree, their wishes.

One family law attorney says that parents typically need to alter their parenting plan as their children transition into their preteen/early teen years. That's when most kids develop an identity and interests separate from their parents. Their extracurricular activities and friends are probably taking up more of their time.

Parent-child relationships shouldn't suffer because of a divorce

When your children are suddenly forced to live between two homes because of a divorce, they are likely going to grow closer to the parent they are with most of the time. This can leave the relationship with the other child lacking in some of the same elements that are present in the one with the custodial parent. It is up to both parents to try to rectify the situation.

If you are the custodial parent, you must ensure that you aren't trying to keep the relationship limited. You might do this unconsciously, but you have to try to catch those actions. Instead, encourage your child to have a meaningful relationship with your ex. Unless that adult was abusive toward the child or has hazardous behaviors, there aren't any reasons why you shouldn't try to help that relationship along.

What should you do when counseling is getting you nowhere?

You've been having trouble in your marriage for some time now. Instead of quickly pulling the plug on the relationship, you and your spouse tried marriage counseling. You've been going for a while, but things do not seem to be improving. What should you do next?

Marriage counseling does not work for every California couple whose relationship is in a bad place. There are several reasons for this, according to a member of the Council for Relationships. An article published in mid-2018 discussed five of the common reasons why marriage counseling may not work as hoped.