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Help your children to cope with the change divorce brings

When you are dealing with a child custody issue, it is easy to focus on what you feel your ex is doing wrong. Instead of putting your efforts on something so negative, try to focus on what you can do to make your child's life a more positive experience. One way that you can do this is by supporting them so that they can see change as a good event.

Learning that your parents are divorcing is a major source of stress for some children. They might worry about what is going to happen to them now. The uncertainty is sometimes the source of the problem. In these cases, discussing the schedule and some of the basic information about the child custody agreement might be beneficial.

The biggest divorce change in 2019

As we move into 2019, it is important to understand how divorce laws are going to change moving forward. One of the biggest changes involves alimony and taxes. The impact on your financial situation could be dramatic.

In the past, alimony counted as taxable income for those who received it. If you got $50,000 per year in alimony payments, you had to report it and pay taxes just like you would if you had a job that paid you $50,000 annually. That alimony was your income -- or at least part of it.

Know how to approach a prenuptial agreement when you get engaged

You have a lot to think about when you get engaged. One of the things that you need to do that some people won't do is get a prenuptial agreement set. Many people assume that these are only for the wealthy and people who have considerable assets, but these agreements can help all couples who are getting married because they offer security.

When you are coming up with the terms of the premarital agreement, you have to be sure they are fair. You can't favor one person over the other when you are coming up with the terms. In addition, you have to ensure that you have fully disclosed the assets that you have so that your future spouse can make decisions based on the actual facts.

When fair proceedings are impeded by a hidden asset scheme

Whether you planned your wedding for months and went all out on a lavish celebration with hundreds of your closest friends and family members or you dashed off to elope with a justice of the peace officiating your union, getting married was likely one of the most significant decisions you had made in your life up to that point. Similarly, deciding to file for divorce is also an intensely personal, weighty decision that most people do not take lightly.

Regardless of the exact reasons for your divorce, it's understandable that you want to keep proceedings as low-key and low-stress as possible so that you can resolve any issues that warrant negotiation, finalize your agreement, leave the past behind and move on in life. If you suspect that your spouse is creating a problem that would prevent a fair and agreeable settlement, you can ask the court to intervene.

How expensive is it to raise your child?

As a married couple, you knew that raising a child was expensive, but you sort of just took those expenses in stride. You tried to find ways to deal with bills and increased costs. You budgeted, but you didn't think about the overall cost that often.

Now that you're getting married and the question of child support has been raised, you're really looking at it in a new way. How much support is needed? How much will it really cost to raise that child?

Post-divorce child support modification: When is it warranted?

As one of many California parents who decided to divorce, you've undoubtedly given a lot of thought to your children's futures and how best to provide for their needs. Often, after divorce, those considerations involve questions of child support.

The court has the final say in all matters related to child custody and support. However, that doesn't necessarily mean that every ruling is permanent. As long as a court order exists, you and your ex are legally obligated to adhere to its terms, but there may be legitimate reasons to request a change. It's always a good idea to seek legal guidance before requesting a child support modification.

Go into your divorce proceedings armed with information

One thing is certain about divorce: you will have to make some difficult decisions as part of your negotiations with your spouse. These will vary according to your circumstances, but you must think about what is truly important when it comes times to make those choices.

Here are some tips that can help you cope:

Have you been dealing with these divorce issues?

Not many people would say marriage is easy. To the contrary, most spouses, perhaps including you, would say that marriage can be rewarding and pleasant but also challenging and problematic, sometimes even within the same day. Has your marriage seen more bad days than good in recent months (or years)? If so, you may be able to relate to certain issues that many people cite as causal factors in divorce.

If you've already determined that your marriage is no longer sustainable, one or more of such problems may be fresh in your mind. Especially if you're a parent, you may feel a bit overwhelmed as you think about changing your entire lifestyle and ending a relationship that you thought would last a lifetime. You're definitely not alone in your struggle, and reading more about others' experiences may help you focus and plan the best course of action in your own situation.

Can you change that child custody arrangement?

You're not happy with the way that your child custody arrangement was handed down by the court and you want to change it. Is a modification even possible or are you stuck with what the court decided?

It is possible, though experts warn that it is also rather difficult. Typically, the court will assume that the original decision about child custody was the correct decision. Just because you don't agree with it does not change this line of thinking. They're often reluctant to alter the schedule or reconsider the case.

Review your parenting plan to start off 2019 on the right foot

The new year is the perfect time to review your child custody order to ensure that it sets your child up for the best year possible. Many parents don't realize that you have the option of modifying these orders as the child gets older and their needs change. We know that the process of modifying the custody order can seem daunting, but we are here to help you get it done.

The parenting time schedule is something that you need to go over now. You can write out the plan for the upcoming year on a calendar. This can be quite helpful when it's time to plan events like family vacations. There might be some changes to the schedule as the year progresses, but having the basic outline to which you can refer can make your life much easier.