Help adopted children work through your divorce

Adoption is a beautiful way to add a new member to your family and show a child what it is like to be in a loving family. When you make the decision to adopt, you are agreeing to take care of the child for the rest of their life. If you and your spouse determine that the marriage isn’t working out, you will have to come to a custody agreement about your children, including any you’ve adopted.

We know that this might be a troublesome time in your life, but you must be prepared to make decisions that are best for the children. One thing that you have to consider when you are dealing with an adopted child is that they might be more affected by the divorce than what other children will be. This is especially true if you adopted the child when they were older and have a memory of what life was like before the adoption.

It is imperative that throughout the divorce, you take the time to reassure the children that the divorce wasn’t their fault. It isn’t uncommon for kids to think that they caused the divorce, but you shouldn’t ever allow these thoughts to go unaddressed.

We realize that it can be hard to think about how you can make life easier for the children when you are facing such tough times yourself. Just remember that they are still young and resilient. They do need your love and support while they are adjusting to this, so be prepared to find ways to give that.