How do we make shared custody successful?

By |2022-04-04T18:51:39+00:0007 Aug 2018|Categories: Family Law|


Shared custody is an arrangement that many parents are able to make work. It might take time to get into a rhythm that is best for all involved, but it’s important to put as much effort and energy into this arrangement as possible. When you are fighting for custody with the other parent, try to suggest shared custody. So, how can you make shared custody successful?

You must make the custody arrangement all about your children. It is no longer about you. That was the divorce. Focus on the children and how to make things comfortable for them as they adjust to shared custody and living in two different homes with you and the other parent.

It’s important that you and the other parent make realistic schedules. Committing to having the children three weekends in a row and not being able to spend time with them is not realistic. Monitor your work schedule and ensure you have the time to be with your children prior to making the commitment.

Get past the idea that just because the other parent was a bad spouse it also means he or she will also be a bad parent. This cannot be further from the truth. In fact, the two are mutually exclusive.

Find a new way for the two of you to communicate, especially when with the children, so there are fewer arguments. If this involves only written communication, then so be it.

When you are involved in a family law case surrounding a custody agreement, you will have a lot of questions. These questions could be very difficult to find answers to if you don’t know where to look. Be sure you know all about shared custody prior to entering into such an agreement.

About the Author:

Dorie Anne Rogers - The Law Offices of Dorie A. Rogers, APC
Dorie A. Rogers, a Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California, has been an attorney since 1981 with an exclusive family law practice located in Orange County. She is accepting dissolution cases with support and property issues including the use of forensics to ascertain business value, community interests and to establish monthly case flow analysis. Ms. Rogers has substantial experience in high conflict custody litigation involving sophisticated psychological issues. She drafts premarital and postmarital agreement designed to define and establish parties' separate and community property interests. Paternity cases and domestic violence matters are considered part of her practice. Ms. Rogers is a court-approved and court-appointed to represent minor children.Ms. Rogers consults with individuals concerned about entering or exiting a relationship. She advises effective strategies for dissolution or premarital planning. Knowledge is power and good planning affords better results.Specialties: Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California
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