Practicing patience can diffuse contentious co-parenting matters

By |2022-04-01T13:09:51+00:0006 Jul 2019|Categories: Child Custody|

Trying to make your child custody arrangements work after you go through a divorce can be challenging. You have to figure out which arrangements will work best for your family and how they will impact your children. One attribute that must be present when co-parenting your child is patience. There are going to be some frustrating times ahead as you adjust to parenting your child across two homes.

Having a healthy environment in which the children can thrive should be the shared goal of co-parenting. Before you embark upon a situation, you have to think about how your ex is likely going to react to it. If the person was manipulative during your marriage, that might continue in the co-parenting relationship. Shoring yourself up to this possibility can help you have patience when they start to push your buttons.

One thing that people sometimes do in co-parenting relationships is to try to get a reaction out of their co-parent. When you exercise patience, you can refrain from engaging in these unhealthy patterns. This might help to diffuse a potentially volatile situation.

When you are patient during those frustrating times, you send a message to your children about appropriate behavior. There might be times when anger is warranted, but being patient will enable you to carefully plan your response so that you don’t fly off the handle.

Conflicts are bound to occur when you are in a co-parenting relationship. Having a conflict resolution plan in your parenting plan gives you a good starting point for handling the matter in a productive manner. This can reduce your stress and encourage your co-parenting relationship to move forward in a positively.

About the Author:

Dorie Anne Rogers - The Law Offices of Dorie A. Rogers, APC
Dorie A. Rogers, a Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California, has been an attorney since 1981 with an exclusive family law practice located in Orange County. She is accepting dissolution cases with support and property issues including the use of forensics to ascertain business value, community interests and to establish monthly case flow analysis. Ms. Rogers has substantial experience in high conflict custody litigation involving sophisticated psychological issues. She drafts premarital and postmarital agreement designed to define and establish parties' separate and community property interests. Paternity cases and domestic violence matters are considered part of her practice. Ms. Rogers is a court-approved and court-appointed to represent minor children.Ms. Rogers consults with individuals concerned about entering or exiting a relationship. She advises effective strategies for dissolution or premarital planning. Knowledge is power and good planning affords better results.Specialties: Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California
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