Plan for times when parenting styles collide

By |2022-04-07T18:40:19+00:0018 Aug 2017|Categories: Child Custody|


When you and your ex can’t agree on how to raise the kids, there is a chance that disagreements are on the horizon. These can be difficult for you to deal with and they can devastate the children. If you are worried that you and your ex will have clashes of this sort, make sure that you keep these tips in mind.

First, remember that it is OK to agree to do things differently. Your ex doesn’t have to bow to your way of thinking and you don’t have to bow to your ex’s way of doing things. What is important is that you and your ex work to give your child a good life.

Second, be willing to take a step back. Humans usually want to prove that they are right. This is something that can backfire in these situations. Instead, it is sometimes best to just walk away and let the chips fall where they may. Of course, this might not be an option if the issue is a serious matter.

Third, try to keep the problem away from your children. Kids are pretty flexible. What you need to focus on is what is in the child’s best interest. Being stuck between warring parents doesn’t fit into that category.

You can always consult the child custody order to determine if the contentious matter is covered in that agreement. If it isn’t and you feel that the situation is serious enough, you might need to explore the possibility of a child custody modification to get the solution put into the order.

Source: Our Family Wizard, “Finding a Balance When Parenting Styles Clash,” accessed Aug. 18, 2017

About the Author:

Dorie Anne Rogers - The Law Offices of Dorie A. Rogers, APC
Dorie A. Rogers, a Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California, has been an attorney since 1981 with an exclusive family law practice located in Orange County. She is accepting dissolution cases with support and property issues including the use of forensics to ascertain business value, community interests and to establish monthly case flow analysis. Ms. Rogers has substantial experience in high conflict custody litigation involving sophisticated psychological issues. She drafts premarital and postmarital agreement designed to define and establish parties' separate and community property interests. Paternity cases and domestic violence matters are considered part of her practice. Ms. Rogers is a court-approved and court-appointed to represent minor children.Ms. Rogers consults with individuals concerned about entering or exiting a relationship. She advises effective strategies for dissolution or premarital planning. Knowledge is power and good planning affords better results.Specialties: Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California
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