Plan for bringing an older child home for adoption

By |2022-04-04T18:50:56+00:0025 Jul 2019|Categories: Family Law|

Adopting a child is a beautiful way to add another member to your family. Even though you are probably uber-excited to do this, you should remember that there are going to be some adjustments that will occur during the transition. For children who are adopted as infants, the transition isn’t likely going to be an issue because they don’t know any other family. When you adopt a child who is a toddler or older, everyone is going to be making these adjustments.

The specific points that are going to come into the picture depend largely on the child’s former life. For example, a child who lived in poverty and frequently went hungry might hoard food. This is a shock to people who have always had plenty. One way that you can help your child to adjust is to provide them with healthy, nonperishable snacks to keep in their room or in another safe place. This lets them know that if they wake up hungry, they will always have something there.

Your child might need a space to decompress. Create a soothing atmosphere in their room so that they can turn to that spot when they need a few moments alone. You should also always encourage them to come to you for hugs and affection when they want it. If they were raised in an unloving home or in an institution, the idea of having a caring adult there all the time can be difficult to handle, which is why you need to allow them to come to you at their own pace.

Having a plan in place prior to the child coming to live with you can benefit everyone. This can also help reduce the stress level that you feel when you are still trying to handle the process of finalizing the adoption.

About the Author:

Dorie Anne Rogers - The Law Offices of Dorie A. Rogers, APC
Dorie A. Rogers, a Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California, has been an attorney since 1981 with an exclusive family law practice located in Orange County. She is accepting dissolution cases with support and property issues including the use of forensics to ascertain business value, community interests and to establish monthly case flow analysis. Ms. Rogers has substantial experience in high conflict custody litigation involving sophisticated psychological issues. She drafts premarital and postmarital agreement designed to define and establish parties' separate and community property interests. Paternity cases and domestic violence matters are considered part of her practice. Ms. Rogers is a court-approved and court-appointed to represent minor children.Ms. Rogers consults with individuals concerned about entering or exiting a relationship. She advises effective strategies for dissolution or premarital planning. Knowledge is power and good planning affords better results.Specialties: Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California
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