Domestic violence victims do not choose to be abused

By |2022-04-07T18:55:45+00:0011 Feb 2017|Categories: Family Law|


If you have found yourself in a relationship in which you are on the receiving end of abuse, you may wonder how things went so wrong. After all, in the beginning, everything was wonderful and your partner treated you with love kindness and respect. But now you fear being in his or her presence and you are constantly afraid of saying or doing something that will trigger a verbal or even a physical attack.

And if you have been searching for an explanation as to why things are the way they are, be very careful not to be swayed by common myths. For example, some people believe that victims of abuse were well aware of the danger they were putting themselves in. Moreover, there is a perception that victims have an addiction to the abuse or that they enjoy being abused. Both of these notions are complete falsehoods.

The rationale for such beliefs is that if a victim isn’t getting something he or she wants from the abuse, then why not just leave? Of course, if you are in an abusive relationship you know that leaving would be very unsafe. Abusers are especially dangerous when they sense they are losing control over a partner.

It is critical that you understand that you are not to blame for your current set of circumstances. And once you are able to extricate yourself from the situation, you can begin to heal physically and emotionally. But your exit should be done in the safest manner possible. So when you choose to make your move, you may want to do so with the help of an experienced family law attorney. The attorney can help you create a safety plan and file for a protective order.

About the Author:

Dorie Anne Rogers - The Law Offices of Dorie A. Rogers, APC
Dorie A. Rogers, a Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California, has been an attorney since 1981 with an exclusive family law practice located in Orange County. She is accepting dissolution cases with support and property issues including the use of forensics to ascertain business value, community interests and to establish monthly case flow analysis. Ms. Rogers has substantial experience in high conflict custody litigation involving sophisticated psychological issues. She drafts premarital and postmarital agreement designed to define and establish parties' separate and community property interests. Paternity cases and domestic violence matters are considered part of her practice. Ms. Rogers is a court-approved and court-appointed to represent minor children.Ms. Rogers consults with individuals concerned about entering or exiting a relationship. She advises effective strategies for dissolution or premarital planning. Knowledge is power and good planning affords better results.Specialties: Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California
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