Divorcing parents need to consider their children’s feelings

By |2022-04-07T19:56:24+00:0026 May 2016|Categories: Child Custody|

Divorcing parents need to consider their children’s feelings

If you are a parent who is going through a divorce, you are likely dealing with many concerns and emotional issues; but so too are your children. Remember, your children likely see you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse as their parents, not as two individuals with strong differences. It can be very traumatic to watch the two of you go your separate ways.

Therefore, it is very important to take your children’s feelings into account as you proceed through the divorce process. To this end, here are a few suggestions that may help your children contend with the big changes in their lives.

  • Make sure that you and your spouse each remain an integral part of your children’s lives.
  • Do not have arguments or legal discussions in front of your children.
  • Do not speak negatively or assign blame to your spouse in the presence of your children.
  • Keep any disruptions to your children’s lives to a minimum.

While you may believe with all your heart that a divorce is the best solution to your marital issues, your children may not understand. Your children love both you and your spouse and it can be very damaging for them to be placed in the middle of your conflicts. A parent should not try to alienate a child from his or her other parent.

In the case of a contentious divorce, it is all too easy to lose track of what is most important. Therefore, if you are involved in a divorce that has grown particularly rancorous, you may wish to get some support from an outside source.

A family law attorney may be able to help you get the situation under control. An attorney who has experience dealing with parental alienation issues could offer advice on how to best work with your spouse. The attorney could also represent your interests regarding your parenting agreement and custody arrangements.

About the Author:

Dorie Anne Rogers - The Law Offices of Dorie A. Rogers, APC
Dorie A. Rogers, a Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California, has been an attorney since 1981 with an exclusive family law practice located in Orange County. She is accepting dissolution cases with support and property issues including the use of forensics to ascertain business value, community interests and to establish monthly case flow analysis. Ms. Rogers has substantial experience in high conflict custody litigation involving sophisticated psychological issues. She drafts premarital and postmarital agreement designed to define and establish parties' separate and community property interests. Paternity cases and domestic violence matters are considered part of her practice. Ms. Rogers is a court-approved and court-appointed to represent minor children.Ms. Rogers consults with individuals concerned about entering or exiting a relationship. She advises effective strategies for dissolution or premarital planning. Knowledge is power and good planning affords better results.Specialties: Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California
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