Approaching children about divorce and child custody decisions

By |2022-03-31T20:04:18+00:0031 Jan 2013|Categories: Best Interests of the Child, Child Custody, Divorce, Divorce Issues|

Approaching children about divorce and child custody decisions

Readers from Orange County may observe that parents who decide to divorce often devote a special amount of attention to child custody. Because child custody will establish how much time each parent is allowed to stay with the child, child custody disputes in a divorce can sometimes be contentious. Determining child custody should be in the best interests of the child, however, these decisions can still greatly affect the child, as seen in a recent story told in a news article.

The story is about a seven-year-old girl who experienced her parents’ divorce. The girl felt that her fight with her brother during dinner and the following argument between her parents was the cause of her parents declaring their separation a few months later. The child’s lack of understanding of the situation led her to blame herself about the divorce of her parents. Unfortunately, the girl’s parents never explained to the child about why they decided to divorce.

Because parents often struggle with their emotions and conflicts in divorce, the situation may happen to any household. Still, it is up to the parents to explain and assure their children about normalcy after divorce. Both parents need to work together to devise a plan to be able to announce the separation in a caring manner. Doing this may help the child get through the divorce without the trauma. During this time, it is important for the parents to communicate and support the child emotionally, especially when the child asks questions about visitation rights or parenting time.

Even after divorce, parents should never belittle or blame their former spouse in front of their child. Such actions may only damage the child, as well as the relationship of the child to the parents. The child should only be assured that the mother and father will still love and care for them even after they have gone their separate ways.

Source: Huffingtonpost, “Telling Your Child About The Divorce,” Edward D. Farber, Jan. 18, 2013

About the Author:

Dorie Anne Rogers - The Law Offices of Dorie A. Rogers, APC
Dorie A. Rogers, a Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California, has been an attorney since 1981 with an exclusive family law practice located in Orange County. She is accepting dissolution cases with support and property issues including the use of forensics to ascertain business value, community interests and to establish monthly case flow analysis. Ms. Rogers has substantial experience in high conflict custody litigation involving sophisticated psychological issues. She drafts premarital and postmarital agreement designed to define and establish parties' separate and community property interests. Paternity cases and domestic violence matters are considered part of her practice. Ms. Rogers is a court-approved and court-appointed to represent minor children.Ms. Rogers consults with individuals concerned about entering or exiting a relationship. She advises effective strategies for dissolution or premarital planning. Knowledge is power and good planning affords better results.Specialties: Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California
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