When is staying together for the kids better than divorce?

By |2022-03-30T17:58:30+00:0007 May 2019|Categories: Divorce|


Many couples decide to stay together for the sake of their children rather than get a divorce. While there has been a lot of research done on the effects of divorce on children, there has been far less on the effects of staying together for the kids.

According to a University of Southern California (USC) professor emerita of sociology, it is best to ask how the marriage is effecting the kids. She said, “We tend to focus so much on how divorce affects children, but you have to remember they’ll have had 18 years of living inside of their parents’ marriage.”

The older children can react in a number of way when they are told of their parents’ divorce. For some, the news can come out of nowhere. The kids never had any idea there were any problems between their parents. For one woman, being blindsided by her father moving out over Mother’s Day weekend and realizing all the planning he put into it was enough for her not to speak to her father for the past 13 years.

One man who is now 34 wishes his parents had just split up when they were ready to divorce. He said, “A marriage is really important, precious thing. But I’m convinced everyone can be happier if you don’t drag it out.”

Another woman, who is now 38, grew up with her parents tossing the “D-word” around all the time. When the separation finally came, no one was really surprised. It took some time, but now the two adults can talk and be at the same grandchild’s birthday party without fighting.

If you are ready to divorce, but are concerned with how your children will cope, perhaps it is time to consider therapy for them and for you. An experienced divorce attorney can provide suggestions for therapists or counselors in the Orange, California, area. In addition, your attorney can also help you get through this difficult time by making the process as easy as possible for you.

About the Author:

Dorie Anne Rogers - The Law Offices of Dorie A. Rogers, APC
Dorie A. Rogers, a Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California, has been an attorney since 1981 with an exclusive family law practice located in Orange County. She is accepting dissolution cases with support and property issues including the use of forensics to ascertain business value, community interests and to establish monthly case flow analysis. Ms. Rogers has substantial experience in high conflict custody litigation involving sophisticated psychological issues. She drafts premarital and postmarital agreement designed to define and establish parties' separate and community property interests. Paternity cases and domestic violence matters are considered part of her practice. Ms. Rogers is a court-approved and court-appointed to represent minor children.Ms. Rogers consults with individuals concerned about entering or exiting a relationship. She advises effective strategies for dissolution or premarital planning. Knowledge is power and good planning affords better results.Specialties: Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California
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