Ultimatums are not enough to stop domestic violence

By |2022-04-07T18:55:59+00:0015 Jul 2016|Categories: Family Law|

Ultimatums are not enough to stop domestic violence

Relationships are rarely conflict-free. In fact, disagreements and even the occasional shouting match are quite normal. But when disputes escalate to physical or serious emotional abuse, then there is a problem that must be addressed. Unfortunately, far too often an abused party may feel compelled to remain in a relationship in spite of the very real potential dangers.

In fact, sometimes it is the one who is being abused who feel sympathy for her or his abuser. He or she may even attempt to help, or “save” the abuser  and try to salvage the relationship. According to information found on the National Domestic Violence Hotline’s website, an abuse victim may attempt to employ different strategies, such as issuing ultimatums, trying to get the abuser to undergo therapy or suggesting couples counseling.

But sadly, if you are trying to alter your partner’s behavior, nothing will do any good unless he or she has a sincere desire to change. This can be understandably hard to accept. After all, this is someone you love who has every reason to love you back without causing you harm.

But if your partner refuses to change and continues to lash at out you in a violent manner, it is vital that you find a way to extricate yourself from the situation as soon as you can. There are a variety of strategies you can employ to protect yourself, such as having a safety plan or getting a protective order from the authorities.

But it is much more difficult to change your circumstances all by yourself. The help and support of your friends and family can be extremely important. So too can the services of an experienced family law attorney. The attorney can help you get and renew a protective order. The attorney can also act as your representative for any of your other pertinent legal needs.

About the Author:

Dorie Anne Rogers - The Law Offices of Dorie A. Rogers, APC
Dorie A. Rogers, a Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California, has been an attorney since 1981 with an exclusive family law practice located in Orange County. She is accepting dissolution cases with support and property issues including the use of forensics to ascertain business value, community interests and to establish monthly case flow analysis. Ms. Rogers has substantial experience in high conflict custody litigation involving sophisticated psychological issues. She drafts premarital and postmarital agreement designed to define and establish parties' separate and community property interests. Paternity cases and domestic violence matters are considered part of her practice. Ms. Rogers is a court-approved and court-appointed to represent minor children.Ms. Rogers consults with individuals concerned about entering or exiting a relationship. She advises effective strategies for dissolution or premarital planning. Knowledge is power and good planning affords better results.Specialties: Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California
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