Tips for introducing a new love interest to kids

By |2022-03-31T20:16:17+00:0001 Jun 2015|Categories: Child Custody|

Tips for introducing a new love interest to kids

In a prior post, we warned our readers about the perils of dating during the pendency of a divorce. Essentially, the emotional complications could lead to additional reasons for couples to fight over custody and parenting time. However, the reality is that life goes on after a split, and people will eventually find comfort in someone else. When that happens, it is important to manage it deftly.

This post will introduce a few helpful tips.

Set boundaries – If the new person is introduced as a “friend”, then the person should stay that way. Kids tend to know more than they let on, so it is likely that they will figure out what your relationship really is with the person in due time.

Take your time – Ideally, your love life should not be broadcast to the kids; so waiting a while before introducing a love interest to kids is alright.

Have the first meeting on the kids turf – The first meeting with a new love interest should be on a play date at a park, or during a pizza party. This way, the child is not forced into meeting the new person.

Growing pains may be in order – Don’t be surprised if the new love interest is viewed as a threat to your child’s time with you.

Tell your ex first – This may be easier said than done, but breaking the news to your ex initially may be easier than having him or her find out through another source. Also, kids who may be forced to harbor a secret may be distressed at the notion of breaking it and getting in trouble.

About the Author:

Dorie Anne Rogers - The Law Offices of Dorie A. Rogers, APC
Dorie A. Rogers, a Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California, has been an attorney since 1981 with an exclusive family law practice located in Orange County. She is accepting dissolution cases with support and property issues including the use of forensics to ascertain business value, community interests and to establish monthly case flow analysis. Ms. Rogers has substantial experience in high conflict custody litigation involving sophisticated psychological issues. She drafts premarital and postmarital agreement designed to define and establish parties' separate and community property interests. Paternity cases and domestic violence matters are considered part of her practice. Ms. Rogers is a court-approved and court-appointed to represent minor children.Ms. Rogers consults with individuals concerned about entering or exiting a relationship. She advises effective strategies for dissolution or premarital planning. Knowledge is power and good planning affords better results.Specialties: Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California
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