THE SECOND TIME’S A CHARM? THE REALITY OF SECOND MARRIAGES
People often want to be married, even when they’re asking for a divorce. They just do not want to be married to their spouse anymore. That does not mean they don’t like the idea of marriage or that they don’t want that in the future.
As a result, they often wind up getting married again. They think they learned from their mistakes and that the second marriage will go far better than the first one.
While that can happen, assuming it will is buying into a popular myth. The reality is that second marriages are more likely to end than first marriages. It’s not all smooth sailing.
“My biggest myth was that my second marriage was going to be more solid than my first,” said one man. “Totally untrue. The problems I had in my first marriage repeated themselves in my second marriage, and I ended up divorcing once again.”
What he found out after the fact was that more than 60 percent of these second marriages also wind up dissolving in a divorce. That percentage is higher than the total amount of first marriage that don’t last, and it means that most second marriages are bound to fail.
This is not to say you shouldn’t look for romance or that you can’t find yourself in the 40 percent of second marriages that don’t end in divorce. However, you do need to understand the statistics and the reality. Do not let the myths sway your decision. Make sure you know what legal steps to take if you find yourself facing divorce a second time.