Parenting time should not be about badmouthing an ex-spouse

By |2022-03-31T19:00:51+00:0031 Jan 2014|Categories: Child Custody, Divorce, Parenting Time|

Parenting time should not be about badmouthing an ex-spouse

Divorce may nullify the marital ties between spouses, but it does not end their parenting responsibilities. Many divorced parents in Orange County, California, opt to share the custody of their children through co-parenting. However, they should not use parenting time to badmouth the other spouse.

Divorce is an emotional process. If the parents act negatively toward each other, it can affect their children. Bitterness can also put their children in an awkward situation because it can make them feel that their parents are making them choose a side.

When discussing the other parent, it is important to keep calm. Badmouthing and putting the blame on an ex-spouse does not help. Being mindful about one’s choice of words and how they are delivered can help children understand why their parents got divorced. Being honest and assuring them that their parents’ decision to divorce had nothing to do with them can put their minds at ease and foster trust. If discussing the other parent feels uncomfortable, it is best to set boundaries.

Parents should know that divorce is also emotional for their children. It is important for both divorced parents to constantly remind their children that they are loved, even though the marriage ended. Using a child as a pawn in a bitter divorce does not benefit anyone.

Child custody is one of the most important issues in a divorce and it can be vital for maintaining a healthy relationship between parents and their children. Both parents have clearly defined roles for promoting their children’s well-being. If a divorced parent feels that it will be beneficial to modify a child custody arrangement, then it is important to seek sound legal advice.

Source: The Stir, “What to Do When Your Ex Makes the Kids Think You’re the ‘Bad Guy’,” Jenny Erikson, Jan. 21, 2014

About the Author:

Dorie Anne Rogers - The Law Offices of Dorie A. Rogers, APC
Dorie A. Rogers, a Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California, has been an attorney since 1981 with an exclusive family law practice located in Orange County. She is accepting dissolution cases with support and property issues including the use of forensics to ascertain business value, community interests and to establish monthly case flow analysis. Ms. Rogers has substantial experience in high conflict custody litigation involving sophisticated psychological issues. She drafts premarital and postmarital agreement designed to define and establish parties' separate and community property interests. Paternity cases and domestic violence matters are considered part of her practice. Ms. Rogers is a court-approved and court-appointed to represent minor children.Ms. Rogers consults with individuals concerned about entering or exiting a relationship. She advises effective strategies for dissolution or premarital planning. Knowledge is power and good planning affords better results.Specialties: Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California
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