How to manage a difficult co-parent

By |2022-03-25T08:25:28+00:0026 Apr 2015|Categories: Divorce|

It is quite common for ex-spouses or significant others to get on your nerves and goad you into disputes that could lead to something serious, such as a restraining order or criminal charge. While we understand that these tactics are underhanded and juvenile, they happen with striking regularity and have real consequences.

Because of this, we find it prudent to remind our readers that dealing with difficult co-parents is an unfortunate downside of parenting. With that said, we offer a few helpful tips for dealing with volatile situations.

Recognize the situation – Keep in mind that a vindictive ex has an agenda. It may be to ensure that a child support order stays intact, or that they intend on moving away and may not have the court’s authority to do so (absent a protection order).

Seek  court intervention – If the other parent is chronically late for exchanges or makes constant excuses for not providing the child for parenting time, it may be time for the order to be modified or for the offending parent to be held in contempt of court.

Keep your cool – Giving in to your anger essentially allows the other party to win. As we alluded to earlier, a vindictive ex may not really have the child’s best interests in mind when they needle you. It is more about power and influence than anything else; and when you lose your cool, you are letting them control you and dictate what they want.

If you have additional questions or need specific advice, an experienced Orange County family law attorney can help.

About the Author:

Dorie Anne Rogers - The Law Offices of Dorie A. Rogers, APC
Dorie A. Rogers, a Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California, has been an attorney since 1981 with an exclusive family law practice located in Orange County. She is accepting dissolution cases with support and property issues including the use of forensics to ascertain business value, community interests and to establish monthly case flow analysis. Ms. Rogers has substantial experience in high conflict custody litigation involving sophisticated psychological issues. She drafts premarital and postmarital agreement designed to define and establish parties' separate and community property interests. Paternity cases and domestic violence matters are considered part of her practice. Ms. Rogers is a court-approved and court-appointed to represent minor children.Ms. Rogers consults with individuals concerned about entering or exiting a relationship. She advises effective strategies for dissolution or premarital planning. Knowledge is power and good planning affords better results.Specialties: Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California
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