How to become effective co-parents in joint custody

By |2022-03-31T18:53:23+00:0011 Apr 2014|Categories: Child Custody, Divorce, Joint Custody|

How to become effective co-parents in joint custody

Orange County residents are very familiar with stories of children being caught in the middle of the divorce process when their parents decide to part ways. As divorce continues to affect spouses, not just in California, but all across the country, more and more parents are now dealing with child custody issues. Such cases can be settled using joint custody, which allows both parents to become custodial parents, working hand in hand for the sake of their children.

Although the thought of becoming partners for the sake of the children may not be the strongest concern of divorcing spouses, it is important to understand that parents will stay connected with their soon-to-be ex-spouse because of their children. Being co-parents can be difficult for the parents at first but the children will benefit if both parents are present throughout their growing years.

In order to become effective co-parents, spouses should be compassionate and support the idea that they will be working together in the coming years for the sake of their children. Parents should focus on their goals, which is to raise their children in a healthy and loving environment, so that they can become the best co-parents that they can be.

Another helpful tip is to remember the good qualities of their ex-spouses when it comes to parenting. By doing so, the parent can more easily adjust to the new setup.

Finally, do not paint the other parent as the “bad guy.” Doing this is a form of parental alienation, which can lead to unsuccessful co-parenting.

Parents who are dealing with child custody issues and related concerns may wish to seek legal professional help. By doing so, both parties would better understand how the custody arrangement works and find the best possible solution for their situation.

Source:, “9 Ways to co-parent like a grown-up,” Emma Bathie, March 28, 2014

About the Author:

Dorie Anne Rogers - The Law Offices of Dorie A. Rogers, APC
Dorie A. Rogers, a Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California, has been an attorney since 1981 with an exclusive family law practice located in Orange County. She is accepting dissolution cases with support and property issues including the use of forensics to ascertain business value, community interests and to establish monthly case flow analysis. Ms. Rogers has substantial experience in high conflict custody litigation involving sophisticated psychological issues. She drafts premarital and postmarital agreement designed to define and establish parties' separate and community property interests. Paternity cases and domestic violence matters are considered part of her practice. Ms. Rogers is a court-approved and court-appointed to represent minor children.Ms. Rogers consults with individuals concerned about entering or exiting a relationship. She advises effective strategies for dissolution or premarital planning. Knowledge is power and good planning affords better results.Specialties: Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California
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