HELP YOUR CHILDREN ADJUST TO LIFE AFTER YOUR DIVORCE
The child custody aspect of divorce is likely one that causes you a lot of stress. You know that you need to do what’s best for your children, but your ex might not agree with you on what that entails. Because of differences in parenting styles, there is a chance that your children will have to learn how to adjust to living in two very different environments.
Some parents are able to work as a team to get the basic rules established for both homes, so the children have consistency. This might not be easy, but it is important, especially for younger children so that they don’t have to try to learn two completely different sets of rules.
Your children should be comfortable in both homes. They shouldn’t ever feel as though they are a visitor in the house. In order to do this, you need to ensure they have a say in what’s going on with their space. They shouldn’t have to live out of suitcases in a common space. Even if they do have to sleep in the living room for a while, they need a dedicated space for their belongings.
If it is possible, make sure that the child has their basic needs at both homes. They shouldn’t have to pack a bag constantly to go back and forth between homes. Packing a bag should only be necessary if they want to bring special items with them. This does mean they should have clothing at both homes.
The parenting plan that you have for the kids should reflect their needs. For example, information about communicating with the parent they aren’t with should be present. Your children should always feel free to contact either parent when they feel the need. Make sure that there is a schedule in the order, so you can help the kids to adjust to their new way of life.