Handle parenting matters with careful thought and respect

By |2022-04-01T13:10:24+00:0017 May 2019|Categories: Child Custody|


Your parenting relationship with your ex can have a big impact on how your children handle the divorce. It is imperative that everything you do in this area of your life is based on what the children need. It can be hard to manage your family while you are trying to work through some of these matters, but finding the balance can reduce your stress and benefit the children.

One of the most important things to remember when you are in this position is that you have to try to keep a positive attitude. Negativity can infiltrate the situation and lead to conflicts and bad situations. You can’t change how your ex is thinking about things, but you control your reaction to the issues that do arise.

Another rule to follow is that you need to follow the standards set for the situation. These are outlined in the parenting plan, so be sure you know what it says and remain compliant with the terms. There will be times when adjustments are necessary, so think about how those will affect the kids when you are trying to decide what to do.

Even though there is a parenting plan, there might be times when it is in the child’s best interests to compromise with your ex on a solution that may not be exactly what is in the parenting plan. For example, if out-of-town family comes in to see your ex on your weekend with your children, you might consider letting them go with the ex, so they can see those individuals.

Never use any opportunity to badmouth your ex. Despite the fact that you are divorced, that person is still your child’s parent and deserves the respect that is due to them. If you do need to let off some steam, do it with someone you can trust and when the kids aren’t around to hear.

Ultimately, you have to do what you feel is best for your children. Your ex probably has the same goal of raising happy and healthy children but might not follow the same path to that goal. Be willing to accept differences and focus on how the kids are doing.

About the Author:

Dorie Anne Rogers - The Law Offices of Dorie A. Rogers, APC
Dorie A. Rogers, a Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California, has been an attorney since 1981 with an exclusive family law practice located in Orange County. She is accepting dissolution cases with support and property issues including the use of forensics to ascertain business value, community interests and to establish monthly case flow analysis. Ms. Rogers has substantial experience in high conflict custody litigation involving sophisticated psychological issues. She drafts premarital and postmarital agreement designed to define and establish parties' separate and community property interests. Paternity cases and domestic violence matters are considered part of her practice. Ms. Rogers is a court-approved and court-appointed to represent minor children.Ms. Rogers consults with individuals concerned about entering or exiting a relationship. She advises effective strategies for dissolution or premarital planning. Knowledge is power and good planning affords better results.Specialties: Family Law Specialist, Certified by the State Bar of California
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