A mother active in the Occupy Wall Street protest movement has divorced her former husband, a banker after 19 years of marriage. As part of the divorce settlement, she has surrendered child custody of the couple's four children to her former spouse and received a cash settlement of $85,385. The Occupy Wall Street movement, which began on Wall Street, has grown and stretched from coast to coast, including California, and even to other countries.
While most parents are struggling to deal with the emotional, logistical and financial toll that a divorce can take them, it is important to remember that children often deal with their own difficulties. When parents get divorced, children can experience a wide range of complex, and often confusing, adjustments and emotions. During discussions about child custody, it is important to remember that the main goal of these arrangements is to take care of the children.
An American Psychiatric Association panel has just completed an examination of what is called parental alienation. The concept is focused around how one parent can often try to turn a child against another parent when the couple is separated or divorced. In California, as well as elsewhere in the nation, this often occurs in the context of a battle over child custody. The psychiatrists were debating whether parental alienation should be officially listed as a mental disorder, as some had advocated, and ultimately declined to do so.
No matter how many times a person reads about custody-related issues, it can never fully prepare a parent for these challenges. Working through a child custody agreement can be one of the most difficult things for a California parent to do. People hear about custody arrangements on TV shows and in the news all time, and may think they will know what to expect, but that is often not the case.
The parents of a five-year-old girl were divorced years ago. As part of their divorce settlement agreement, the girl's mother was granted primary child custody. Since then, however, the appropriateness of the mother's parenting has come into question -- not just by the girl's father, but also by many others as a result of the TV reality show "Toddlers and Tiaras."
Turn on the TV and you are likely to find a reality show about celebrities or average parents. In many cases, the average parent becomes a celebrity from the exposure. This spotlight can be too much for some families to deal with. It can also highlight a person's negative behavior or parenting skills. If a child is suffering because of the choices of a parent, on camera or off, then the child custody arrangement may be reevaluated.
Parents who are trying to work out an arrangement involving child custody have a lot to think about. On the one hand, they want to have as much time as possible with their children. On the other hand, California courts prefer that both parents stay active in a child's life. Balancing these two factors can be difficult. However, with a little flexibility and a willingness to compromise, parents can come up with a custody arrangement that benefits everyone.
One of the most difficult parts of a divorce likely has to do with determining an arrangement for child custody. In California, it is typically preferred that each parent play an active participating role in raising a child, but it is not uncommon for parents to dispute this arrangement out of anger or resentment towards each other. However, keeping a child's best interests in mind is the most important factor in child custody arrangements.
It can be frustrating and upsetting when a parent violates the terms of a child support or child custody arrangement. From payment schedules to visitation hours, the guidelines of these agreements must be followed or a parent can face serious consequences. A California parent who violates a visitation agreement can face contempt charges among other penalties.
For any number of reasons, a parent may want or need to move out of California. Sometimes relocating may be required for a job or for family, but it can be very common. When one parent decides to move away, what happens with the custody of a child?