There's nothing easy about asking your spouse for a divorce, as both you and your spouse will have a lot to say about your current situation and what the future will bring. There will be a lot of emotions on both sides, so it's important to prepare for this discussion.
The way you ask for a divorce will impact you in the future, so it's critical to take steps to minimize tension and put yourself in a position for success. Here's what you need to do:
- Prepare: Know what you want to say, how you want to say it and how you'll react to responses your spouse could have. You can't prepare for everything, but you should at least try. This will give you more confidence.
- Don't change your mind: As you discuss your feelings, you may begin to feel bad about what you're doing. Your spouse may even ask you to reconsider. If you're sure that divorce is the answer, don't change your mind now.
- Don't discuss the details of your divorce: The divorce process is full of details, such as those associated with child custody, child support, alimony and property and debt division. You can negotiate these details in the future. Don't get into it initially, as it's likely to cause an argument.
You want to get this initial conversation out of the way, but don't rush through it. The way you ask for divorce will impact you well into the future.
Once your spouse knows your feelings and intentions, you can then focus on the divorce process and how to protect your legal rights.