The end of a marriage is a sad event for many people. Even if you are the person who filed for the divorce, you will likely feel some emotions when everything is said and done. In between the filing and the finalization, it is easy to lose your focus and think about what you can do to make life difficult for your ex. Giving in to this temptation might prove to be more harmful to you than you expected.
You need to focus on you during the divorce process. If you have children, they need to be right there next to you as the focal point of the process. Each decision you make must be made with you in mind.
You have to think about how various property division settlements will help or harm you as you start your new life. You might be surprised at how some settlements impact you in a negative way. The cost of keeping some assets might strain your single income. This isn't how you should live your new life.
For child custody, you have to think about how the decisions you make will impact your child. Each decision should be made based solely on how it affects your child. For example, you might not want to have to see your ex, but your child likely needs both parents around. This means that you will have to deal with your ex about your child.
We understand that you might still be in shock about the divorce. Even if you didn't get to prepare before the filing, we can help you to prepare now.