PLAN THE SEPARATION FROM YOUR MARRIAGE CAREFULLY
Making the decision to end a marriage sometimes isn’t clear cut. Some couples try a separation to determine if they want to call it quits. Unlike a divorce, there needs to be some rules in place for the separation. If you ultimately decide to divorce, these can carry over to the divorce.
One thing to think about is the financial aspects of the separation. Just in case you and your ex can’t work things out, you need to have the finances split. You need to be responsible for only your debts. This should be included in a separation agreement that you and your ex each sign.
Since you are living on your own income, you need to make sure that you have your budget set based on that. Don’t overspend on anything because this could make your finances more difficult to deal with than they have to be.
While you are still separated and not actually divorced, you shouldn’t get involved in a new relationship. Instead, focus on improving yourself and deciding what you want in your life. You can find new hobbies and work on your relationship with your family members.
Another good rule of thumb is to avoid saying anything negative on social media. This might help prevent tensions from occurring because there won’t be fuel on the internet that will make matters worse. This can also make things easier for you if you have children since you won’t have to worry about what they are reading or hearing from online sources.
If your separation does lead to divorce, take the time to plan carefully. You might be tempted to rush, but rushing will likely mean you will overlook something very important.
Source: Forbes, “Dos And Dont’s Of Marital Separation,” Jeff Landers, accessed April 19, 2018