Getting a divorce is a hard decision for any parent, but even harder is deciding on a parenting plan. It's important to choose a plan that works well for your children and your own schedule. Here are five tips for making a plan that works for you.
Most of us are aware of just how complicated family life can be. But regardless of how difficult family relationships may become, a priority must always be placed on the emotional and physical well-being of the children. The state of California recognizes this fact, which is why all family court decisions are based on the best interests of the children.
Parenting after a divorce is a whole new world, especially if your spouse made most of the decisions. So, now that you are facing the prospect of caring for your children on your own during your custody periods, you may be trying to figure out what kind of parent you want to be. In truth, there can be a learning curve to becoming a good single parent. And one of the more common mistakes that a newly single parent can make is to overindulge the child.
It's easy for a recently divorced father to miss spending time with his children whenever he wants. And for a man who is especially involved in his child's life, the hours spent separated can be filled with loneliness. You may even miss the difficult moments when your child misbehaves and needs to be disciplined because this too is done with love.
If you are a divorced parent, you likely want your time with your child to be spent doing things that you both enjoy. But if your time together is limited, you really want to have as many special moments as possible. And one way to do this is to take trips to interesting and fun places.
If you are planning to divorce and you have children, you know that you will be experiencing some profound life changes. For one thing, you likely will be sharing custody with your child's other parent. As such, you will be contending with scheduling and other time management issues. But while your parenting agreement covers how the child's time will be divided, it does not contain instructions on how to actually handle the adjustment to your changing circumstances.
Parents typically know how important stability is in their child's life. Children need structure and consistency to feel secure. Unfortunately, sometimes circumstances can arise that upend the home life that a child has become accustomed to. And divorce is an extremely common reason for children having to cope with sudden life changes.
One of the strongest instincts people can possess is the desire to remain connected to their children. But sadly, sometimes circumstances conspire to separate a parent from his or her child. And as you may know, if you are obstructed from being with your child there is simply nothing, including vast amounts of wealth, that can fill the emotional void.
While it is always preferable for divorcing parents to reach a child custody agreement between themselves or with the aid of a mediator, sometimes the situation escalates to another level. And if you are participating in a contested custody case, you may be required to take part in a child custody evaluation as part of the resolution process.
"What stupid poem could fix this home, I'd read it every day." Those words are lyrics from the song "Stay Together For the Kids," by rock band Blink-182. The song's perspective is that of a child's whose parents are in a turbulent relationship. The child wants nothing more than for his parents to just get along. But as we know, sometimes a marriage is beyond repair.