Many people who have decided it's time to end a marriage do not always do so with respect for the spouse they are leaving behind. Maybe they've decided a move to their parents in Oregon is the next logical step--and they plan to take the kids with them. Maybe they feel they have a right to more than half of your bank account and they try to empty it before filing. Worst of all, maybe things have gotten heated and you fear for the safety of you and your children.
Is there anything you can do? You haven't even gotten to the basic paperwork of divorce, and you are already worried your future is unfurling without you.